How To Find Personable Prison Pen Pals

Being in prison is no fun, and many inmates suffer from depression due to isolation. To make them feel less lonely while they’re serving time, consider finding prisoner pen pals and sending them letters.

You can browse through many websites dedicated to helping inmates find pen pals for friendly conversations or even romance. 

What To Do Before Writing and Sending a Letter to Offenders


You should write letters to inmates as frequently as possible so that they have something to look forward to, but you need to be careful about the information you share. Some offenders can be dangerous, so sharing too many details about your personal life can be risky.

You should avoid giving them your real address, especially at the beginning of your correspondence—the best thing to do is to rent a P.O. box dedicated to receiving mail from prison. You won’t have to worry about potential stalkers once your inmate pen pals get out of prison.

Before composing a letter, you need to know who’s available for correspondence.

How To Find Inmate Pen Pals

You have numerous options to choose from when it comes to websites dedicated to finding male and female prison pen pals.

Most of these websites are free, and they feature names of inmates all across the U.S. along with their pictures and addresses. You can often choose filters regarding inmates’ age, race, and gender.

The most popular websites for finding inmate pen pals are:

  1. PrisonPenPals
  2. Inmate Classified
  3. Friends Beyond the Wall
  4. WriteAPrisoner

Send Letters to an Inmate Pen Pal From the Comfort of Your Home 

Spending ages choosing the right envelope, making sure to follow the rules, and going to the post office to mail a letter to your pen pal can be overwhelming. Imagine investing all that time and effort just to discover a few weeks later that your letter was rejected because of a small mistake you didn’t even notice.

DoNotPay’s Connect With an Inmate tool can spare you the trouble and unnecessary stress, and send a letter on your behalf so that you don’t have to worry about following all the rules or addressing the letter correctly.

We will print your letter and send it to the facility where your inmate pen pal serves time. You’ll need to provide a few details and compose your message, and we will do everything else. Here’s what you should do:

  1. Log in to your account from a web browser
  2. Click on Connect With an Inmate and choose our Send a Personalized Letter feature
  3. Enter the inmate’s name, surname, and ID
  4. Compose your letter through our app or upload a file with the already written message
  5. Upload photos
  6. Select one of our letter templates

DoNotPay Can Help You Locate Your Prison Pen Pal in No Time

If you’re not sure which facility your incarcerated loved one is held in, or if your inmate pen pal has been transferred and you don’t know the new address, DoNotPay’s tool can help you out.

Select the Locate Someone option, type in the inmate’s name and state, and DoNotPay will provide the latest known address as quickly as possible.

Receive Letters From Prisoner Pen Pals in Your Virtual Mailbox

The third feature of this tool allows you to receive letters from inmates through your virtual mailbox. This feature is super helpful if you want to avoid writing your address on the envelope.

The inmate’s letter will be sent to an address provided by DoNotPay. We will scan it right away and send it to your virtual mailbox.

Before being able to do that, you should create your mailbox by following these steps:

  1. Sign in to your account from a web browser
  2. Click on Connect With an Inmate
  3. Select Virtual Mailbox
  4. Click on Create My Mailbox

After that, you can log in to our app and click on Request Mail Check anytime you want to see if you’ve received any mail.

Who Can Send Letters to Prison?

Anyone who has the address of the facility and correct info about an inmate—name, surname, and ID, or booking number—can send letters. Besides visiting inmates, sending letters is one of the best options to stay in touch with them.

What Can I Send to My Prison Pen Pal? 

Before sending a letter to your prisoner pen pal, you should be familiar with the rules to make sure your letter is accepted. 

The envelope or packaging should be without glitter or other decoration. It should only contain the address of the facility and your P.O. box, and both addresses should be written correctly:

  • Write the address of the facility in the center of the envelope
  • Write the return address in the upper right corner of the envelope

Prisons have strict regulations when it comes to items they can accept. Here’s a list of some of the items you shouldn’t send as well as those that are allowed:

Forbidden Allowed
  • Confetti, glitter, stickers, or other embellishments
  • Explicit photos
  • Gang-related items, symbols, or pictures
  • Drugs 
  • Money
  • Used books
  • Books with hardcovers and spiral bound
  • Magazines for adults 
  • Up to five photos (4×6 inches)
  • Up to three new books with soft cover ordered only from Amazon and shipped by the USPS
  • Magazines and newspapers without sexual content
  • Holiday and birthday cards but without glitter, electronics, or other decoration

How Often Do Prisoners Receive Mail?

You can send letters to inmates through the USPS. While the letters arrive quickly, your inmate pen pal won’t receive mail right away. Every item that offenders receive undergoes detailed inspection by the prison staff to ensure there are no forbidden items. 

The entire process could last a few weeks, so be patient when writing a prisoner because you might need to wait longer to receive a response. 

Should I Call or Visit My Inmate Pen Pal?

Only outgoing calls are allowed in prison, which means that you can’t call your incarcerated pen pal. 

You could provide them with your phone number, register it online, and have them call you if you prefer communicating over the phone. Give your phone number only if you’re certain that the inmate in question isn’t dangerous. 

The same advice applies to visitation. Prisoners love when someone visits them, but you shouldn’t feel obligated to do it, especially if you don’t trust them enough. 

Facing Other Complex Issues? DoNotPay Has Got You Covered!

Whether you want to send a letter to an inmate in Texas, California, or any other state, DoNotPay can help you do it effortlessly. 

Besides helping you make new and maintain old friendships with inmates, we can also assist you in managing many other issues, even the administrative ones.

Once you access your DoNotPay account in a web browser, you’ll be able to count on us when you need to: